In long-term relationships, it is so easy to be stuck in a rut with your spouse or significant other and while this may be ‘comfortable’, it can make your sex life a little ordinary. However, by shaking it up and using these sex tips, you can revive the spark that first brought you two together. Here are a few pointers to ponder.

Sex Tip 1: Treat yourself

It is not possible to have great sex if you do not feel sexy. So splash out and treat yourself to a new aftershave or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put a spring back into your step.

Sex Tip 2: Flirt with each other

Send your partner playful, sexy messages throughout the day. Build up the anticipation by telling him what you are wearing and what you’d like him to do later.

Sex Tip 3: In the mood

Do not undervalue the power of lighting a few candles. Make sure your bedroom is sexy and does not have magazines, toys, dirty laundry or newspapers littering it.

Sex Tip 4: Just kiss

Agree to place a ban on sex for a certain length of time and just kiss and focus on foreplay. Abstention from sex has the added benefit of charging you both up.

Sex Tip 5: Surprise!

Do not wear any underwear and let him/her find out.

Sex Tip 6: Watch a sexy film together

It does not have to be porn for it to be sexy. Some favourites are Nine and a Half Weeks, Body Heat and Last Tango in Paris.

Sex Tip 7: Buy a new toy

Nothing spices up a dull sex life like a new adult toy. Begin your search at sites like LoveTheRabbit.com where you’ll find the best jack rabbit vibrators articles, information, raves and reviews and links to the stores that stock them. Shopping together online for something sexy and the anticipation of your package’s arrival will create a new ‘buzz’ in your bedroom.

Sex Tip 8: All change! Position that is!

Go to Google – type in ’sex position’ then click on ‘Images’ – I guarantee you that something will catch your eye - enough said!

Sex Tip 9: Fantasy Island

A little role-playing can be fun and do not limit yourselves to the bedroom. Start the fun before you even get home by meeting at a restaurant or bar and pretending you just met.

Sex Tip 10: Get out of the bedroom

Sometimes a change of locale is all that’s needed to spice up the action. Try having sex somewhere unexpected; in your spa or swimming pool late at night, in the back of the car… just be careful - because you don’t want to be caught!

If any of the ideas makes you feel nervous, then that is the one you ought to try first! The big advantage of being with someone for a while is that you can completely trust & feel safe with him or her, so do not hesitate to try something out of your normal comfort zone, especially when you know it is going to spice your sex life right up!

I am somebody who does not believe in marriage. For me it is just a piece of paper and is a complete waste of money. The latest reports on the long term success of marriage confirmed that one in two marriages end in divorce and that the majority of these divorces are granted within the first ten years of married life. Well that’s a good stat isn’t it? Makes you want to walk up the isle next week doesn’t it? Call me a cynic if you want to, I prefer to see myself as a realist.

As you will no doubt tell as you read through this article I am in no way involved in the “marriage industry”; I am actually involved in stuttering therapy, I also work on a project offering a professional DVD replication service as well as a one that offers cheap calls.

In September of last year I was invited to attend a wedding of a good friend of mine. The day arrived and I drove my family to the hotel where the ceremony was going to take place. Boy was it a lavish affair! There were violinists playing as you entered the venue and the whole event was, in my opinion, far too over done. The “happy couple” must have spent a small fortune and I know for a fact that they did not receive any “outside help” from either set of parents.

In November, only two months after the wedding, the groom was made redundant from a company where he had worked for the last nine years. He does not possess the most impressive of cv’s and is still out of work today.

He has told me that the wedding has put him into debt in rather a big way but that it would have been OK if he had not have lost of job. These are tough times, financially and people are losing their jobs in an ever increasing manner; this is just what happens I am sorry to say.

It is time to get our heads out of the clouds and into the real world. Getting yourself in debt just so that your girlfriend can be a princess for the day is madness, this is 2009 and times are quite tough out there “in the real world”.

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I have witnessed, both within my own family, in the outside world and in my practice, what can happen in a relationship if there is no common bond that can actually bind a couple together.

Well, let me digress (or maybe, progress) and say a bit about getting together as a couple in the first place: even if there is a strong attraction, be it physical, mental or emotional: Love; That does not seem to be enough to keep a couple together; the body will wither, the mind will change and the emotions will flutter. And love may turn into a dependency or habit. Unless, there is a third entity; the glue that binds the one to the other; the bond that binds, a mutual goal and lifetime commitment to it. To see you through the inevitable tough times, you will need something greater than both of you; a driving force that can take both of you, like a boat down the river, or an ark during a flood …

In my opinion, there are two good bonds; children and Religion or a Spiritual Practice (to be more politically correct, or any other proven external disciplinary way of life that both parties agreed to commit to whole-heartedly, abide by, follow and emulate; the goal). Even if both of these are present, there are no guarantees, but the chances are greatly improved.

Without these, there is no common bond; it’s just two people living separate lives together: convenient for a nice meal, some ambience, safe sex, and the occasional meaningful conversation …

So, the intent or lifetime goal of both parties must be the same. Otherwise, both sides will be resentful, because, in any situation, for any important decision, no compromise can satisfy both of the parties, because their primary motivating goals are different; or they have no primary motivating goals and “just don’t feel like it” at the time. And so there is no improvement in the situation and resentments, anger, etc. build; and there is no possibility for a long-term relationship.

Love may sometimes seem to be obscured by a tendency towards negativity, insecurity and fear/anxiety. But this is who the person is at the moment; and they are perfect the way they are.

Love may sometimes seem to be obscured by a tendency towards not wanting to be so depended upon by the other, for their happiness, security and emotional wellbeing. But this is who that person is at the moment; and perfect the way they are.

Much of this may stem from residual family entanglements. Some behaviors may come from “inherited” family control issues. Some behaviors may come from family insecurity issues.

There are a few key issues that need to be kept in mind: Trust! Honesty! One must trust the other, as the right hand trusts the left. And one must be honest and trustworthy, inside the relationship and in the world at large as well; trusting yourself, being honest with yourself and trusting your partner and being honest with your partner, and being trustworthy and honest in all your dealings in the world. In other words, your thoughts, speech and actions should always be in line with a clear conscience.

There are times when you will feel rejected or abandoned, based on your perception of the situation. There is usually no reason to feel this way; from the other’s standpoint, it’s not about you, it may be about their family control issues.

At times you may feel that you would appear weak if you give in to the desires of the other. There is no reason to feel weak by giving in: remember the bond that binds; you can show your compassion and accommodation of what may be the other’s family insecurity issues.

Besides the above mentioned, or perhaps, because of the above mentioned, there may be a lack of real compassion and empathy on the part of both parties for each other. To see the world from the other persons heart and to trust the other person, that they are doing the best they can. To see them as perfect, the way they are. (Of course, there is always room for improvement.) To realize the person is always more important than any ideology or material object or goal; the relationship comes first.

Perhaps ask; what’s the worst thing that can happen if the worst thing happens. Most of the time, when the dust settles, nothing too spectacular. Again, the third entity, the bond that binds, the trust in that everything that happens is only good.

There is a need for genuine compassion and complete acceptance of the other as perfect as they are; acknowledgement and acceptance of each others needs and idiosyncrasies and the commitment and willingness to live with them as they are, for as long as they are that way. And to accomplish this, we need the help of a special “glue” to bind one love to the other. A “third party” that has historically been present in all successful marriages. And continues to be a vital element in marriages today.

The other person; their feelings, hopes, dreams, goals must be your own as well: you are one; heads and tails of the same coin. One person, soul, living life in two bodies.

It says, “All beginnings are difficult”. And while this may be so, heading in the right direction, with the right foot, for the right reasons, towards the right goal, will ensure that the trip will be worthwhile and pleasant for you and for all of those who love you …

Abraham Bruck is the developer of the Universal Healing Technique and the UHT Lifetime Trauma Resolution Protocol.

 

You’ve got an anniversary coming up and you know your wife would love some jewelry gifts but you don’t know where to start. Shopping for jewelry gifts can be fun ! I suggest heading to a mall and “window shop” at a few of the jewelry stores. If you dare walk inside, a sales person will no doubt offer to help you. If you happen to see a woman, around the same age as your wife, you may just want to ask her “”What would you pick out of this case for your husband to give you for you anniversary? “” She’ll give you some ideas of what is new, and what things cost. The anniversary rings are beautiful and there are also many personalized ringss that you can buy.

Browse through your wife’s jewelry box, or just simply look at what she is wearing for jewelry when you get home. This gives you an idea of what she likes : silver, gold, big, feminine, flashy or sophisticated.

Now, you are ready to get down to the serious business of shopping. Jewelry, whether a ring, bracelet or necklace pendant, is always a welcome gift. If it’s a special anniversary (25th-silver / 30th - pearl / 45th sapphire ) choose a gift in the metal or gem of that anniversary . You can find that information online by typing in anniversary calendar. If its not a special year, any jewelry and any stone works.

There are many great jewelry gifts ! A simple bracelet or a necklace with a beautiful charm on the end will be worn with pride. If she needs a new watch, most of us like numbers on there, so we don’t have to guess what time it is. Earrings are perfect, a woman never has enough earrings. And remember, if one pair is good, two is better. One silver pair, one gold pair, or a set of diamond studs is always a favorite . A personlized ring with a romantic sentiment inside or one of the anniversary rings with diamonds will make any woman feel special.

Last but not least, make it real, and go for for quality not quantity. For the finest jewelry, you don’t want to go to just a department store. Go to a jeweler. When picking the perfect piece of jewelry remember , the shinier the better, the more it sparkles the bigger her smile. Her reaction to the very special anniversary jewelry that you’ve chosen just for her will make all the shopping well worth the time!